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Sunday, February 5, 2012

Wherefore Art Thou Sexy Bits? by Ruthie Knox


Please help me welcome author of Ride with Me—Ruthie Knox to FMB!

I have to admit, I like it when people ask me to talk about sex on the Internet. This is probably the inevitable outcome of having been named “Ruth” as a kid. I mean, I’ve been named Ruth all along, but it was harder as a kid. There weren’t any other Ruths when I was growing up, or any Ruthies, and this inevitably meant that when I met someone new, they either (a) said, “Oh, that’s my grandma’s/great aunt’s/elderly neighbor’s name!” or (b) made a sad, stale, tired joke about Dr. Ruth.

Because ten-year-old girls everywhere just live and breathe to be compared to grandmotherly television sexperts, right? Right.

Honestly, it’s enough to put a girl off sex for life. But instead, here I am now, a thirtysomething romance author who writes books with sex in them. Sometimes rather a lot of sex in them. How did that happen? I’m still trying to figure it out.

Okay, that was a lie. The truth is, I like reading romance novels with sexy bits in them. I like writing the sexy bits. I like writing about writing the sexy bits, and reading what other people have to say on the subject. I enjoy meta-discourse about sex scenes, is what I’m trying to say. Which is just another way of revealing that yes, indeed, I am a geek about absolutely everything, thank you for noticing.

Ahem.

But I have this theory. When we think of the “typical” romance novel, and especially of Romance of the Past, it’s one with a lot of sexual tension, a few steamy kisses, and an artfully euphemized sex scene at the end. In a book like that, the sex scene seals the deal on the romance. Love: Achieved. Courtship: Complete. Happily-Ever-After: Guaranteed. It’s like an end-punctuation mark on the story—and let’s hope, for the heroine’s sake, an exclamation point.

Often these days, however, the hero and heroine start smexin’ mid-book, or even in chapter 2 or 3. Sometimes they start having sex before they have any emotional connection whatsoever. So what does sex mean in a book like that? What is it for, if not to suggest that mutual orgasms equals a perfect, fulfilling mutual existence forevermore?

I have a few theories.

I think that in real life, relationships form in all sorts of ways. They follow the dating–courtship–kissing–emotional commitment–true love–sex pattern sometimes, but other times they follow the cybersex–emotional emailing–meeting in person–sex–love pattern, and other times they follow the friendship–kissing–sex–ohmygodwhatdidwejustdo–happiness–lifetime commitment pattern.

We humans, we don’t necessarily approach this stuff in order. We fumble around and make stupid mistakes. It’s a wonder we ever manage to reproduce and raise children, honestly, so thoroughly do we botch everything romantic and sexual sometimes.

And romance novels reflect that, to a degree. They are, by definition, about people and their flaws and their ability to transcend them with the help of other people. They are about sex and love and the redemptive qualities of both. I like to think that in the sort of books I write, and in the sort of books I love to read, sex is one of a number of different ways that people get to know each other, to get to know themselves better, and to find their way from a less-good place in their lives to a better one. Sometimes, sex lets brittle, defensive characters be vulnerable, and it helps them figure out how to help each other. It helps them fall in love.

That it also makes for smexy-fun reading is just a bonus.
Ride with Me by Ruthie Knox

Avalible from Loveswept on February 13, 2012!
 In this fun, scorching-hot eBook original romance by Ruthie Knox, a cross-country bike adventure takes a detour into unexplored passion. As readers will discover, Ride with Me is not about the bike!

When Lexie Marshall places an ad for a cycling companion, she hopes to find someone friendly and fun to cross the TransAmerica Trail with. Instead, she gets Tom Geiger — a lean, sexy loner whose bad attitude threatens to spoil the adventure she’s spent years planning.

Roped into the cycling equivalent of a blind date by his sister, Tom doesn’t want to ride with a chatty, go-by-the-map kind of woman, and he certainly doesn’t want to want her. Too bad the sight of Lexie with a bike between her thighs really turns his crank.

Even Tom’s stubborn determination to keep Lexie at a distance can’t stop a kiss from leading to endless nights of hotter-than-hot sex. But when the wild ride ends, where will they go next? 


 Ruthie Knox figured out how to walk and read at the same time in the second grade, and she hasn’t looked up since. She spent her formative years hiding romance novels in her bedroom closet to avoid the merciless teasing of her brothers and imagining scenarios in which someone who looked remarkably like Daniel Day Lewis recognized her well-hidden sex appeal and rescued her from middle-class Midwestern obscurity. After graduating from Grinnell College with an English and history double major, she earned a Ph.D. in modern British history that she’s put to remarkably little use.

These days, she writes contemporary romance in which witty, down-to- earth characters find each other irresistible in their pajamas, though she freely admits this has yet to happen to her. Perhaps she needs more exciting pajamas. Ruthie abhors an epilogue and insists a decent romance requires at least three good sex scenes.

Find Ruthie at her website.



So what do you think -- do you like sex in your romance? Do you prefer the slow build of tension to one hot sex scene at the end, or do you like to see sex complicate the characters' relationship?

One lucky commenter will be randomly chosen to win a digital copy of Ride with Me. Winners will pick up their copy through Net Galley. Good luck to all!

Giveaway Details:
  • Giveaway is open to US & Canada & International
  • Giveaway will run from February 5th 2012 - February 12th 2012
  • The winner will be chosen randomly and announced on February 2nd 2012
  • One entry per-person please! Duplicated or more than one entry’s will be deleted!
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  • Giveaway is provided by the author. 
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6 comments:

  1. Another fun post Ruthie -- the tour is on & Tom is on the road, once again without his bike Really enjoying these posts & of course loving all the reminders of the romantically fun story - RIDE WITH ME rocks!

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  2. great question in my romance I enjoy sex in a book I also like when it is built up and you think the characters are going to explode. Great contest and sounds like a great book!

    Paula

    MuseCBS@gmail.com

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  3. Thanks, Paula! I agree, that build-up of tension is awesome. Jennifer Crusie is really good at it, I think. When I read BET ME, I couldn't stop until Min and Cal finally got into bed together -- at the very, very end! The anticipation was awesome, though.

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  4. Jennifer Bielman
    autumnflower6(at)aol(dot)com

    I like sex in my romance. I have enjoyed both the slow build up and the kind of sex that complicates the relationship. It just depends on my mood. You can;t really go wrong unless you are just putting in sex without a meaning.

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  5. I like sex in my romance novels and I enjoy the build up and tension that leads to one hot sex scene. I also like when sex complicates a relationship. I love variety in my books. It makes it very interesting read. Please enter me in contest. I would love to read this book. Tore923@aol.com

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  6. I do like sex in a romance I'm reading, and to have to wait through the whole book for a sex scene would probably annoy me. But a slow build up and then a steamy scene. And then follow the couple through the story. That's what I like.
    Awesome contest. justjo55 (at) live (dot) com

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